The DWR Feminist Quote of the Day – On Objectification

I love what one commenter, Sha’Tara, said, ‘One thing I do know: men need us, and because of that, they fear us.’ She talked about inventing ourselves outside of patriarchy, as power and control is THEIR thing. DEMEANING and BELITTING women trying to take back some of that power with their own sexuality is a patriarchal (and sexist) thing, too. We can use our sexuality to show we are equal but it is true we will always be ‘exploited for male consumption.’ During National Go Topless Day, the classy Break wrote, ‘ let’s not pretend they are going to convince any men this is about gender equality. All we see are tits,’  (Richard Parsons). You see my point, right?

Dead Wild Roses

legtable“there’s no such thing as “taking control” of being objectified. the women who say that through stripping or other forms of performative sexuality they are regaining control of their own objectification aren’t understanding the concept of control. control is gained through power, power is systematic and industrialized, power is not a feeling. you can feel good while you’re being objectified, or you can feel bad, but realistically that changes nothing about the exchange: the woman being exploited for male consumption. “

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SoCS: Roommates suck!

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is: “ex.” Find a word that includes “ex” and base your post on it. Have fun!


There is huge business around here renting out rooms. I intermittently rent out a room or two myself but always end up regretting it. Then I do it again. My current tenants hate my cat. They are allowed to hate my cat but they must do so quietly. Let’s put it this way, they are moving out in a few weeks because they bothered me so much about the cat.

They are a couple and the woman (girl) in particular was obsessive, and I mean completely and totally obsessive, about extra cat hair delusions. Yes, my cat sheds. But she is not a long-haired cat–please check the rest of my blog for pics of #hillarythecat–and the shedding is minimal. I’m also a clean person. However, every morning before I could even get out of bed this woman was sweeping up imaginary extra cat hair on the floor and SLAMMING the broom against my door. Obviously, she wanted to live in the street.

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The Mail Tag

I’m grateful for a family that brought me up with class, dignity, manners, and respect. And that all those political debates over dinner taught me how to win one without ever calling anyone a name or a four-letter word.


I’m grateful for education. More grateful than I could ever express and the most grateful of all for that Women’s Studies course (that I thought was a history class) that rocked my world and truly showed me what discrimination and bigotry are and how they exist in the world–in my world–in the here and now.


My dream job would be the Hillary Clinton For President’s Top Social Media Adviser. Of course I would be out of work in 98 days . . .


If I could travel anywhere right now, it would be to super artsy Vancouver. Plus I hear there is tons of stuff to do and I know some people currently vacationing there.



I don’t need a fantasy pet. I already have the BEST. PET. EVER. #hillarythecat Featured below sleeping on my pillow when I was exhausted and all I wanted to do was sleep on my pillow.


Nothing annoys me more than guys who I don’t know well direct messaging me on Facebook to say “hello.” If you have something of value to say, that’s different, but there are plenty of online dating sites out there, I suggest you join one and leave me the hell alone.


Believe it or not, I am probably the only person alive with no official “Bucket List.” Liked the movie but it did not inspire me to make a list.


1. I am grateful to have such wonderful sliblings.

2. My dream job is to be an Author.

3. LAS VEGAS! I just need some fun right now and I bet I will when I am in Vegas.

4. Huskies! They are just so adroable.

OMG they are all so cute! I WANT THEM ALL!

Hey there buddy. How are ya doin?

5. I bite;)

6. To go to the San Deigo Comic Con!!! I want visit all the panels and get to meet all my favourite Authors and Actors. And make new friends!


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