I love what one commenter, Sha’Tara, said, ‘One thing I do know: men need us, and because of that, they fear us.’ She talked about inventing ourselves outside of patriarchy, as power and control is THEIR thing. DEMEANING and BELITTING women trying to take back some of that power with their own sexuality is a patriarchal (and sexist) thing, too. We can use our sexuality to show we are equal but it is true we will always be ‘exploited for male consumption.’ During National Go Topless Day, the classy Break wrote, ‘ let’s not pretend they are going to convince any men this is about gender equality. All we see are tits,’ (Richard Parsons). You see my point, right?
“there’s no such thing as “taking control” of being objectified. the women who say that through stripping or other forms of performative sexuality they are regaining control of their own objectification aren’t understanding the concept of control. control is gained through power, power is systematic and industrialized, power is not a feeling. you can feel good while you’re being objectified, or you can feel bad, but realistically that changes nothing about the exchange: the woman being exploited for male consumption. “